How To Put Disappointment In The Dunce Corner - 5 Tips On How To Deal With Disappointment

Disappointment. What a great thing! I know you must think I'm nuts to think so and you probably think I didn't go through it to know how it feels. Well, I did go through it, and it was more than once, a lot more. About the I'm I nuts part, maybe. You will have to decide after you read this article. So why is disappointment so great? Because it can teach you more than 10 successes put together!

1. What are you thinking?

When you go through a disappointment, what are you thinking off? Are you blaming yourself and calling yourself a failure? Are you searching for excuses to protect yourself? Are you trying to convince yourself that this wasn't your fault?

The way in which you think when confronted with a disappointment, shows exactly what you will go through in the future. If you keep pounding yourself with negative thoughts, than as a result you will get...you guest it...more negative thoughts.

So, if you only get nothing out of these negative thoughts and you also waste your time on thinking about them, why do you continue doing it? whenever you feel like talking negative to yourself, ask yourself: "What's in it for me if I talk like this? What do I get out of this?" When you will see that the answer is nada, zilch, nothing (at least nothing good - because you get a lot of bad thoughts and a great possibility of failure next time) will you still do it? I hope not, for you own sake.

2. Talk to someone about your disappointment

How about talking to someone about your disappointment? Would this help you? If you think it would, then do it. But be careful though. Be careful who you talk to. If you think that people won't understand, and you will feel even more disappointed after the talk, do yourself a favor and don't do it.

Talk only to people that care about you and that you know are not negative persons. Negative people tend to share their negativeness, whether willingly or not. You will be better if you avoid talking to such people.

Search for positive people that seem to run over disappointment every time they see it in their way. These are the ones that will give you a great lesson on a silver plate.

3. Shift your focus

Shifting your focus is a great way to get over disappointment. All you have to do is do it when disappointment shows it's ugly face. For example: If you plan to go out with some friends, but somethings happens and they can't go anymore, what can you do? You can sit there, angry, disappointed and lost and maybe this is a good idea. Just kidding :) It's a horrible idea! Don't even think about it!

Instead, if you have some spare time on your hands, why don't you do something you always wanted to do but never seem to have time to do it. Well, you have now, so do it! It could be anything from playing a game with your child to reading a book you wanted to read. You will find something if you want to.

4. What is the truth?

The truth is that you can't control everything that happens. You just can't, so get over it. Whatever happen and made you feel disappointed could be something that you just couldn't change in any way. It was just meant to be that way.

The sooner you realize this, the better. Don't waste your time on regrets and sorrow. Instead, see disappointment as what is really is: just a phase in your life, a step into your evolution, something that isn't that important at all.

5. Maybe this is bad. Or maybe not.

Bad, good, who knows what it could be in the end? Have you ever gone through an experience that seemed so bad at first that you thought you had to be the unluckiest man on earth, but, in the end it turned out to be a good thing or even a great blessing? If you did, remember this moment and be aware that any disappointment can be a good thing in disguise.

What could seem a horrible thing now, could end up to be a real blessing. Just think of the boy that broke his leg and couldn't walk anymore. He was so upset and disappointed, but his father told him: "Let's wait and see what happens. Who knows what this could be?" After a week a war started in that country and people that could fight had to go to war. The boy stayed home because of his leg. A lot of people died in the war, but the boy lived and his leg recover in a couple of months.

Did you get the picture now? You just can't know what a disappointment can lead to. You have to have patience and confidence. Next time you are feeling disappointed just wait and see what happens. Disappointment could turn out to be the greatest thing that you experienced! And if it doesn't, what do you have to lose?

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